Here are some more tips from the list we started to discuss earlier about what you should bear in mind while getting ready for your date. Don’t forget to check part I here.

  • Although you don’t want the woman to think your rich or you’re some player, you should make sure your shoes are sparkling or just clean. You should also make sure you remembered accessories such as a nice belt, wallet and watch. Sure they don’t seem to matter much to you, but they speak volumes about you, which is sometimes important.

  • Don’t play in your head over and over that this date has to work. Totally get rid of any feelings like that. Despite what you think, it doesn’t, it’s just a night out, and that’s all it will be until things get more serious over time. If things work out in the end of the date, that’s awesome, good for you! But as I already said, you need to not stress yourself, relax and be cool. Your date will spot any signs of desperation on your part, and this can be used against you. This is why before you arrive on a date, you should do everything you possibly can to make sure you feel relaxed.

  • Being the guy, it’s really up to you if you wish to bring flowers along with you. Sure it’s nice but remember she’s gonna be holding them all night on the date, lugging the things around, and make sure its not a lot.

  • Whatever you do, don’t think you are going to ‘tango’ with your date, on the first date, before you even know anything about each other. Any real smart person would know ‘tangoing’ is a very sacred action between two people that are supposed to be super close before even thinking about doing, if either of them try to pull moves that indicate they want to ‘tango’ you need to realize this person is attracted to your body, not you, and that’s how EVERY relationship crashes and burns. Sure it may be great at first but you will see your life decline and you wont feel loved like someone who loves YOU would be able to provide.
  • while you bathe, if you decide to bathe and not shower, take that spare time to come up with some ideas as to what you would like to ask your date and perhaps funny stories you can tell your date. No matter what, a date is about getting to know each other, so questions are normal, and awkward silences suck. Just picture the person you are going to meet and ask the questions in your head, may be easier to  handle when the real time comes and come out more easily.
  • Even this early on in the free online dating services stage, just like ‘tangoing’ you need to remember there’s no way in heck that you ‘love’ this person after the first date, you may like them, but it will take a lot more time together before those feelings become real. So stay away from being foolish, if you say ‘I love you’ they can easily use that to use you.
  • Keep in mind that communicating is less then 20% verbal. While you try to be cute don’t send the wrong vibes to your date. If you try to hard it might come across wanting something, and do I need to repeat the whole ‘tangoing’ talk again? We are adults now, so don’t act childish. Watch just what you do and how you do it and you can avoid problems. I’m not going to sugar coat this, main reason males rape females is because they expose themselves or they give them the body language they want to ‘tango’ because they were trying to be too cute, and the female is like ‘Woah what?! No! I didn’t mean that’ and for the men with little self will, will not take that nicely. So be careful with just what you do.
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